I can’t remember a day without my big brother. He was my best friend, my first enemy, my biggest influcence, my only protector. He taught me everything I know. For example, when I was just learning to talk, my great big bro taught me to say, “Jennifer did it (or in my immature articulation “Efferdid”),” any time questions arose like, “Who broke that lamp?”; “Who made that mess?”‘ or “Who peed on the floor?”
His kindergarten year was so lonely for me. I was lost without him. Each evening was full of activity, playing and learning together. Later, when I started school, he carefully helped me on and off the bus each day. During recess, he was on a mission to ensure my uninterrupted (read: unbullied) fun. He was in high school when I was in junior high; he watched the boys like hawks, ensuring I was protected from their claws.
Now it wasn’t always flowers and butterflies. One evening, while watching TV, my wonderful brother was being a royal couch hog (yes, brother you were!). After repeated, sweetly asked, and polite requests to move his feet, I pinched his achilles tendon. Hard, with all the force I could muster. I could barely enjoy my victory, when, lo and behold, he kicked me. In the face. Hard, with all the force he could muster. I screamed bloody murder and we both were grounded….forever.
Another time, I was innocently completing homework in my room with the door closed. It was late, 10:30 or so, when I heard my wonderful brother call my name. As the obedient younger sister, I immediately go to heed his call. As I open the door, I can’t. It’s stuck. I keep trying to open the door, when I notice there is a rope, tying my door to the bathroom door, which is preventing me from opening it all the way. I call and beg and plead to be let out. He doesn’t respond. I’m becoming claustrophobic. I’m terrified. I suddenly need to pee. I look desperately around. THE WINDOW!!!! I’ll climb out and go around to the side door. I’m halfways out the window, when the door opens and my dad comes walking in, and bellows, “What are you doing?”
As you can see, my brother and I have been through it all. The constant separation and reunion of my parents. Our tiffs, spats and fights (he choked me out…once, for a second, then apologized profusely for hours). Graduations. Moves. Job losses. Job offers. Sicknesses. Injuries. The many family deaths. The subsequent family fued that still lingers. The birth of each of his children. Perhaps the greatest honor he has bestowed on me is that of godmother to his oldest child.
He is my brother. We’ve laughed. Cried. Yelled. But most of all we’ve always supported each other throughout the years. I am so proud of the man he has become, the family he has created. Most importantly I am proud of the brother he has always been.